Don't sacrifice your own mental health for breastfeeding.
Love on your baby as you trust your instincts and do your best. It gets better with time.
Breast feeding is the best kept secret of weight loss. The look you get from your baby while breast feeding is completely different from while bottle feeding. Prove me wrong!
The hormone secretion from the act of breast feeding is not there with bottle feeding.
It may seem like it should be natural but it’s a learned skill for both you and your baby. It’s hard in the beginning but with time, like any newly learned skill, it get easier. Your body will learn what to do, your baby will understand what to do, and you will have the peace of mind of what to do. Have support for a lactation consultant and know your body was made to do this. Just give it time.
It stimulates the uterus to contracts and return back to it normal size and shape. And also produces the naturally soothing hormones oxytocin and prolactin that promotes stress reduction and positive feeligs in the Nursing mother.
The best advice to give is to tell her this is a learning experience for both you and your baby. Your baby has never had to latch to a breast, or suck/swallow/breathe at the same time. Their minds can be clouded by how social media portrays the breastfeeding experience - it’s not always easy, and its a lot of work.
Another point to tell them is that they wont be producing large volumes of breast milk right after delivering - its a process of stimulation and telling your body its time to produce. It can take a few days to start feeling the engorgement.
Its a long journey to success, but it takes patience and a lot of support.
At first breastfeeding for me was not so wonderful. The engorgement, the lack of support and my little boy crying because he was hungry. I thought I was a failure as mother. However, things changed when I got the support of other mothers that were breastfeeding or have breast fed. (I had going to a lactation special but she did not have any children). In fact, I had an opportunity to bond with my mother, because she had breastfed seven or her ten kids.
The best advice she give me was to "relax" do not compare your experience with others. My son were breastfed until he was two. I had a lot of negative comments about his age. But I always remember my mother advice. My son is now 38 year old. I have a great relationship with him, his wife and my grand daughter.
The first few days you will only produce a few tiny drops of milk(before your milk 'comes in'). I have zero professional experience- only know from breastfeeding mine and from friend moms. I know many who say 'I wanted to breastfeed my baby and we tried so hard but I just wasn't making enough/any milk'. Sometimes it takes a bit to 'come in'- they'll watch baby's weight the first few days closely. And most importantly, you are the perfect mom for your baby- none of us will ever fit into that society 'perfect mom' box. Take a breath and know that you're the best mom for your little one..imperfections and all! Breastfeeding is a learned skilled for you and baby. Our 1st <3 is about to start her senior year of H.S. but gosh I remember it like yesterday...crying almost as much as she was during her 1st couple of growth spurts (when all she wanted to do was nurse and I felt like a cow lol)..
Cold cabbage leafs packing around breast for engorgement and nurse q2-3 hrs.
Listen to your body and your nurses, ask questions and have all the answers for your care and that of your baby. learn your care skills before you go home.
Relax, enjoy the experience, seek professional assistance, allow nurses and lactation consultant to assist her.
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